Boomer Dating Success – Dating Again After Divorce or Death of a Spouse

OK, so one of the most common characteristics of Single Boomers is we are either dating again after divorce or the death of a spouse. Certainly, as a group there is usually a need to Prepare the Wall with Divorce Support or Grief Support work in the Grief Recovery® Seminar first before Painting the House in Dating Again.

Once the Surface is Prepared, it is great to start painting your house: Get Out on More Dates.

Indeed, studies show time and again that the majority of married people met their spouse via people they knew in common. Through friends, through common associations, through mutual acquaintances.

So, what is the number one behavior which will then increase your chances of meeting your new love?

MEET MORE NEW PEOPLE

It will depend on the nature of your metro area for how easy it is to do that and what sort of events happen regularly which you can attend.

You want to combine a mix of events which are sort of a group association – like a Salsa or Classical Dance group which meets regularly – with one off events which you attend only periodically.

ASSOCIATIONS and GROUPS

This is your community, your tribe. You want to attend these regularly, just don’t let it be your only resource. These associations and groups – dance groups, singles groups, Bible Study/Church groups – can often become a bit insular. Sometimes new people attend their events. Sometimes only the same people have been attending for months.

Do attend such events, just not exclusively.

SPECIAL OCCASION EVENTS

Often a Special Occasion is observed by a series of public events. They are really sort of one off. St. Patrick’s Day. Gay/Lesbian Pride cocktails parties. Art Gallery openings. Scotch Tastings. Pinot Noir Tastings. Memorial Day BBQs.

I know I promised about 10 days ago to give you a week on the theme of Baby Boomer Dating and then proceeded to talk about Long Term Marriage Relationship Success last week. Why? Because events in my life on Monday just opened that door, so I went through it for the week. That’s the joy of blogging.

Well, THIS is the week I will focus on Baby Boomer Dating. This was the first.
Happy Dating and Relationships!

April Braswell

Dating and Relationship Expert

Baby Boomers Want a Different Dating Relationship – Ozzy and Harriet This Ain't No More

Just back from Viva Las Vegas where I presented two dating seminars, the hosts antiquatedly calling in Computer Dating. Internet Personals. Internet Dating, Cyber Dating. Online Dating. Whatever you want to call this wonderful subset of Web 2.0 websites, singles are interested in and actively using the dating sites to attract, pursue, and find love online.

Each of the workshops was covering different phases of online dating at a annual Singles Conference in Las Vegas. Most of the singles there were 40 years old and older, ergo most were of the Baby Boomer generation. Some GenX singles. The workshops addressed different aspect of winning at Internet Dating and being successful at dating online, while using safety and precaution. The workshops themselves were very interactive, which was just great because that meant that the participants really got their money’s worth in terms of their investment of time and moola in attending. That is always a good thing for the conference organizers and their being happy and delighted with the invited guest speakers.

Well, one of the themes which emerged in both sessions as well as was point of conversation then at lunchtime was that the single Baby Boomers at this stage in life, after 50 years old pretty much - they want a different kind of relationship than when they were 20 somethings or even early 30s somethings.

When that is the case, and you are dating, after you likely already had children and now own a small house, a townhouse, or a condo, those are important things to discuss in the date 3-5+. Start contemplating and articulating, What do you want? Now that you have already had kids… what do you want now in a relationship? The Boomer generation grew up watching the now classic TV show, Ozzy and Harriet. Well, their marriage model no longer rings true for this generation for what they want in a life partner or marriage relationship after 50 years old.

Not only are these important things and questions to ask your date once you first determine whether or not there even is the all-important imperative of In-Person Chemistry (not just the fantasy from Internet Dating Email exchanges). These are also important questions to pose to yourself! And Dating is the laboratory for vetting out the truth, testing, and refining.

Until you are well-matched for LIFE partnership… which may or may not at your age result in marriage

Happy Dating and Relationships,

April Braswell

Boomer Dating Expert